Being Wed

Today marks 5 days since my "husband" and I entered into "marriage". And now you must be confused and wondering about these quotation marks... so let me explain. We aren't actually legally married, but traditionally joined. This then means that we haven't acquired the status of married folk yet however, what's stopping us from starting to have a marriage state of mind? I say.. nothing!

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This is my thinking... during a wedding, there's no switch that you can turn on to let you know that you can start becoming a husband or wife...it starts in the mind! And my feeling is that if you begin to act or respond as a husband or wife before your wedding day, it will come naturally to you when you begin your life together. However, don't get me wrong, wifely or husbandly duties and all that pertains to marriage in my opinion should only be left to legally married couples who are joined in the presence of God and witnesses. That being said, let's go into this matter of weddings.

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I have always dreamed of a white wedding...like every other girl. It's what we are taught to aspire to be...bride's in white with flowing dresses, flowers and maids.. the whole shebang! And there's nothing wrong about it only that since my traditional ceremony, I have developed an admiration and wider appreciation for culture and the role it plays in shaping us as individuals and communities. I am very proud to be associated with a culture that values its girls in such a fashion that a whole ceremony is dedicated to bidding her farewell and vice versa. (If you don't know what am talking about...look for me and I'll tell you a story). So back to this topic on weddings.

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What I've come to realise is that a wedding is a formality but an important one at that. You can chose to wed in a registrar's office and that's okay. You can chose to do a church wedding, and that's even better. You can also choose to do a garden wedding and have a beautiful ceremony. All these are lovely ways but one thing remains, the joining together. Whether its a pastor or priest or registrar who joins you together, isn't the end result the same? Don't you leave there married? And yet, sometimes I wonder whether we put too much pressure on ourselves to have a perfect wedding or even yet to please our families in the choices we make. And then again am reminded that that is who we are. However, can I stress one thing, let your marriage be as personal and special as you made your wedding day. All the work that went into planning and executing your wedding should also go into making your marriage as beautiful and special as God intended it to be. Besides, isn't being wed one day, and being married, for the rest of your lives? 

Love, S